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7 Reasons for Forgiveness in Marriage
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Hi, Jesus loves you.
There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness- Josh Billings. Lack of forgiveness in marriage has led to many separations and divorces. A Lasting relationship demands that the couple learn the act of forgiveness. To forgive may not be the easiest thing to do but it certainly is the wisest thing to do.
Forgiveness is one of the pillars of a successful marriage. Understanding the power of forgiveness will empower you to face and conquer any challenge that comes your way in Marriage.
Reasons for forgiveness in marriage
1. Love
‘Tis the most tender part of love, each other to forgive – John Sheffield. If you really love your spouse you will forgive him or her. It is difficult for people to forgive when the love is not there or is waning down. Yes, some circumstances can be very trying but love will surely conquer. For instance, God shows and clearly proves His (own) love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us – (Romans 5:8, AMP)
2. Reciprocation
You are also liable to err too. You are to do to people (including your spouse) what you would want them to do to you. You may say that you will never do what he/she did but what if you do the one that he/ she will never do. That is why Christ said in Luke 6:37, “judge not, and you shall not be judged: condemn not, and you shall not be condemned; forgive, and you shall be forgiven” For every successful marriage, the act of forgiveness must be applied.
3. Gift to yourself
“It really doesn’t matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on.” – Real Live Preacher. When you are holding your spouse down in your heart in un-forgiveness, you are also holding yourself down. You are hindering your own progress. Let go and move on. To enjoy your marital blessings you need to walk in forgiveness in marriage. (more…)
Building the Right Foundation for Marriage
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Marriage is one of the most beautiful things God made. It is one of the channels where we exercise our God-like nature of love and commitment to responsibilities. Successful marriages and healthy families are not wished to be but they are worked. And building the right foundation is most necessary if you want your marriage and family to stand the test of time.
If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3, KJV). How successful you want your home to be determines how deep and strong your foundation should be. The challenges will certainly come but whether your family will overcome is determined by the type of foundation you have laid.
Jesus Christ is the most dependable, reliable and durable foundation. Building your marriage and family on Jesus is the wisest thing to do if you are going to enjoy a successful marriage and healthy family. God instituted marriage and therefore has the manual for building great ones.
Your relationship with Jesus determines the kind of relationship you will have with your spouse and children. When you know how to talk, relate or respond to Jesus, you will know how to do same with your family.
Many people desire successful marriages and healthy families but they are far from seeing it because they are far from Jesus. As you build your relationship with Jesus, you are building yourself to enjoy your marriage and a healthy family.
You cannot separate your personal spiritual growth from the growth of your family. How far you grow spiritually will manifest in your relationship with your family. When every family member is growing spiritually, it becomes difficult for the enemy to overcome the family.
Obedience to Christ is obedience to the word of God. That means the word of God is the right foundation for successful marriages and healthy families. A family that obeys the principles of God’s word will always enjoy peace and harmony. The scriptures lay down the steps or instructions to follow if you are to enjoy successful marriage and healthy family. (more…)
5 Benefits of church going for family life (Part 2)
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In my last post I gave the first 5 benefits of Church going for family life. Today, I want to share the last 5 benefits. Family is the bed rock of the church. Should the family be unstable, the church will certainly be affected. So, church activities are programmed among other things, to build a stable family life for members.
Here are the other benefits
1. Avoidance of trouble
Church going has been a great blessing to my family. We have kept away from troubles because we chose to be in church when there was service in church. The people who would have put us into trouble did not find us available for outings that would have ruined our family life.
2. Choice of company
Going to church enables you to choose the right company to keep. Children make friends with people that love God and will never lead them astray. Children who go to church and participate fully with their hearts tend to overcome peer pressure more.
3. Choice of spouse
When you go to church, you have the opportunity to meet and marry a God fearing person. The marriage foundation will be solid because both of you are on the same spiritual platform which is needed for a successful family life
4. Peace
Families who go to church enjoy peace at home. Jesus, the prince of peace whom we fellowship with in church, follows us home to continue the fellowship there. The word of God in us individually produces peace in us which ultimately reflects in our relationship with one another
5. Channel for salvation
Most importantly, church going gives people the opportunity to change and give their lives to Christ Jesus. God wants people to come to church no matter what they may have done. The word of God we hear constantly produces the faith to be saved. And if any member of the family is yet to give his or her life to Jesus, continued church going will eventually help the person(s) to be saved.
Church going is not just to satisfy your conscience but to build you and your family up, and to give you rest from untold loads of heartaches. Embrace going to church today and enjoy the blessing of God and rest on every side.
What else can you add to this list of benefits?
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Relationship Advice-7 Reasons Why Married Couples Should Stay Together
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Imagine a married man living like a bachelor. What picture can you see, a happy and contented man or an angry and frustrated man? Evenfor the married woman, how does she look living like a spinster? Marriage is more than the marriage certificate and the change of name.Now there are various reasons why couples choose to live apart, in themselves; the reasons are genuine and understandable. But considering the consequences both now and in the future, it is not the best idea for them to choose to live away from each other. Let’s look at why it is not the best choice.
1. Companionship
Marriage provides the platform for companionship. How will one enjoy this companionship when the spouse is not there? Husbands tend to end up in bars, casinos, etc just to fill up the vacuum and the wives become embittered. You got married because you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your spouse.
2. Joint decisions
Technology has made it a bit easier for married couples to communicate with one another but it cannot replace one-on-one discussion. When apart, spouses tend to make decisions without consulting the other and when they do, the other may just agree or disagree without understanding the situation on ground.
3. Love and care
Everyone desires to be loved and cared for. How will you be loved and cared for when your spouse is not around? Hearing him say he loves you over the phone is not the same as when he looks into your eyes and says it and the expression on his face showing how much he cares for you. What of the touch that is impossible with distance? How will you care for or comfort your spouse when he/she is down emotionally or sick if you are far away. Distance is a big barrier for married couples to love and care for one another
Main Secret On How To Save Marriage And Have Joy And Peace
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How to save marriage has become a serious issue with couples today. In recent times, the rate of marriage failure has greatly increased. Many factors are attributed for this failure and many solutions are being offered but the main secret on how to save marriage is being ignored. The main secret is ones walk with God, the instituter of Marriage.
God initiated marriage in the first place with Adam and Eve and laid down rules and regulations on how to have joy and peace in your marriage. These rules and regulations are what couples find difficult to obey. I would not blame them because it is difficult to do so with the trend of the world, where some people are fighting for women liberation and the economy is forcing people to focus more on their career than their marriages and family.
However, how to save marriage is purely on God’s principles and for you to follow them you need to retrace your steps back to God. Your walk with God will reveal to you the areas of your marriage you need to address and God will give you the wisdom on how to address them.
Many times couples tend to blame one another for the problems they are facing but never considering that they may be the main cause of the problem. When you walk with God, He will always point out to you where you are going wrong and what to do to correct it. He speaks to us through our conscience and His word (the bible)
Some of the issues that cause problems in homes include lack of attention, communication breakdown, financial problems, pride etc. These are largely wisdom problems and can be dealt with when you apply the wisdom from God’s word. God’s wisdom is higher than man’s wisdom. Man’s wisdom is selfish but God’s wisdom is full of love.
It takes two people to fight. When you are walking with God, He will go ahead and touch your spouse and enable him or her to change his or her attitudes towards you and the problem. If the problem lingers, you will still have peace because you know that God is working it out for you. And with your prayers in line with God’s word, mixed with faith, you will surely save your marriage.
It is therefore very important that you get to know more about God, His principles for a successful marriage and obey them. God has designed marriage for you to enjoy and if yours is about to crash, He also has given us how to save marriage in His word. You are not to have anything short of joy and peace in your marriage, so take the step towards saving your marriage today.
How did your walk with God save your marriage? Please share your experience with other readers. Even if you have no experience, you can also comment on the post
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