Have you ever been commended and how did you feel? Have you ever been insulted and how did you feel? Our words certainly affect others, either for good or bad effects. We can either, build or destroy, gather or scatter, lift or pull down, comfort or discomfort with our words.

Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks – Matthew 12:34 (NKJV).

Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers – Ephesians 4:29 (NKJV).

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness – Proverbs 15:1-2 (NKJV).


Spoken or written words are vehicles for communication. Communication is the art of passing across news, information, feeling or whatever, to somebody else. Therefore whatever we want to pass across to a person (hatred, love, joy, condemnation, honour, etc.) determines the effect it will have on the person. Also, the effects of our words are determined by our state of mind towards the person at a given point in time. For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, and soft words will always turn away anger. So if you are bitter towards a person, your words will be bitter words and it will have a negative effect on the person. But if you tender in your words, you will turn away anger.

People Are Products Of The Words They Heard Or Read.

They cannot go beyond the words spoken in their lives. A child who heard encouraging, loving, and positive words will grow up being self-confident and successful in life. But a child who heard only negative words of condemnation will grow up being emotionally destabilized. The person’s life can only be changed if he chooses to re-feed himself with positive and encouraging words. And the scripture says that we should take heed to what we hear.

Then He said to them, “Take heed what you hear... (Mark 4:24, NKJV)

Dr. Ben Carson, Sr., M.D. (an American neurosurgeon and the Director of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins) is a typical example of the effects of words on a person. Sonya Carson (Dr. Carson’s mother) chose to shower her kids, Ben inclusive, with encouraging words in spite of their conditions at that time. And today her son is a product sort after greatly and a person whose story inspires others.

Words Can Either Lead A Person On The Right Or Negative Path.

Many have gone astray, are on the streets, or even in prison because some person(s) were not careful in their choice of words towards them, whereas, there are some persons who will attribute their success in life to the positive words spoken to them earlier in life by some person(s). So, like sheep, we should follow voices that will lead us aright and not strange voices.

Yet they will by no means follow a stranger, but will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers – John 10:5 (NKJV).

Robert T. Kiyosaki (Co-author of the Rich Dad Poor Dad series) will forever attribute his great achievements to the words of his Rich Dad. Though the bulk of the words were spoken when he was much younger, they stayed with him and have contributed to his early retirement in life, with enough investments to keep him going.

Words Are Generational.

The words spoken into the life of a person, many times are re-spoken into his next generation. This cycle continues until a person in that lineage receives contrary words from a different source. This explains why a particular family continues to succeed in life and another continues to fail.

For example, the sons of Jonadab kept passing down his instructions to them even when he was no more with them

The words of Jonadab the son of Rechab, which he commanded his sons, not to drink wine, are performed; for to this day they drink none, and obey their father’s commandment. But although I have spoken to you, rising early and speaking, you did not obey Me – John 35:14 (NKJV).


Our words really affect others. Many have committed suicide or failed in life because they didn’t hear the right words. Therefore, knowing the effects of our words, casually or seriously spoken, we need to weigh our words before we release them on any person. And as King Solomon said in Proverbs 25:11, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

How else can our words affect others?

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