Nov 29, 2010

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How our words affect the lives of others

How our words affect the lives of others


Hi there, Jesus loves you!

Have you ever been commended and how did you feel? Have you ever been insulted and how did you feel? Our words certainly affect others, either for good or bad effects. We can either, build or destroy, gather or scatter, lift or pull down, comfort or discomfort, etc., with our words.

Spoken or written words are vehicles for communication. Communication is the art of passing across news, information, feeling or whatever, to somebody else. Therefore whatever we want to pass across to a person (hatred, love, joy, condemnation, honour, etc.) determines the effect it will have on the person. Also the effects of our words are determined by our state of mind towards the person at a given point in time. Matt 12:34, “…for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” (KJV). So if you are bitter towards a person, your words will be bitter words and it will have a negative effect on the person.

People are products of the words they heard or read. They cannot go beyond the words spoken into their lives. A child who heard encouraging, loving and positive words will grow up being self confident and successful in life. But a child who heard only negative words of condemnation will grow up being emotionally destabilized. The person’s life can only be changed if he chooses to re-feed himself with positive and encouraging words.

Dr. Ben Carson, Sr., M.D. (an American neurosurgeon and the Director of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins) is a typical example of effects of words on a person. Sonya Carson (Dr. Carson’s mother) chose to shower her kids, Ben inclusive, with encouraging words in spite of their conditions at that time. And today her son is a product sort after greatly and a person whose story inspires others.

Words can either lead a person on the right or negative path. Many have gone astray, are on the streets or even in the prison because some person(s) were not careful in their choice of words towards them, whereas, there are some persons who will attribute their success in life to the positive words spoken to them earlier in life by some person(s).

Robert T. Kiyosaki (Co-author of the Rich Dad Poor Dad series) will forever attribute his great achievements to the words of his Rich Dad. Though the bulk of the words were spoken when he was much younger, they stayed with him and have contributed to his early retirement in life, with enough investments to keep him going.

Words are generational. The words spoken into the life of a person, many times are re-spoken into his next generation. This cycle continues until a person in that lineage receives contrary words from a different source. This explains why a particular family continues to succeed in life and another continues to fail.

Our words really affect others. Many have committed suicide or failed in life because they didn’t hear the right words. Therefore, knowing the effects of our words, casually or seriously spoken, we need to weigh our words before we release them on any person. And as King Solomon said in Proverbs 25:11, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

How else can our words affect others?


Ifeoma Nwoke



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  1. When I fulfill my dreams, people looking up to me or those who never thought they could are encouraged to fulfill theirs.

    Therefore, when we allow the negative words in our lives to affect us and we do not fulfill our purpose, dreams or destinies, the people who are to be influenced through us miss out.

    • Hi Ndidi,
      That’s a good one. Many people’s future are somehow attached to us.
      We should work towards not stumbling so that these ones won’t stumble too.

  2. great article, very useful!

  3. aber jennifer says:

    Words spoken ARE SEEDS SOWN.When a negative word is spoken in some one’s life, Satan plants it and when positive words are spoken,GOD effects/plant it too.Many parents have ruined their children destiny by speakings negatives eg, calling a child a fool, useless ,indeed wrong.
    Even if a child is not performing to expectation in school and failed ,continue encouraging,telling him he can make it and will surely be so.
    So ,lets sow the right seed.

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